Oy vey! What happened to the weekend? I’m sure there was one… We ushered in fall on Sunday with the Autumnal Equinox. The rest is kind of a blur. On my second cup of coffee. I think both my eyes are open…. What did I miss?
I missed plenty… Mostly opportunities. There are things I am only able to accomplish on the weekend. Hmm… I should add “in theory” to that last sentence. It seems the weekend always sucks me in and suddenly it’s Monday and I’ve only added to the “to do” list. Perhaps I’ll turn it into wallpaper because soon I’ll have enough to do the office. Think of the money I’ll save!
See what I did there?? I took a left turn at the end of the paragraph. I believe this may have something to do with my weekend’s disappearance. I get ten things halfway done and then find the first thing I began and think, “Oh, yeah… I was doing that…” and if I’m lucky then THAT thing will get done.
I do love autumn, but it seems it’s even easier for me to become distracted. I’m going to formulate a plan for making some progress. I’ll let you know how that goes. I’m filing this one under “Projects” because it truly is one for me. If you have any ideas, I’d love to hear them.
Happy Fall! Welcome to the week’s beginning! ~ Diane
[image found here: http://imgur.com/r/dogs/bqsDHyl%5D
A couple of days ago I noticed an unusual bug on my driver’s side car window as I was getting in my car. He was kind of sleek and small, with a prominent stinger. “Cool bug” I thought to myself. I got in and backed down the driveway. It wasn’t until I turned onto the main road that I noticed it was still there, hanging on to the window. Even though I wasn’t yet up to speed, the wind was really beating up this bug. His wings, head, everything was getting battered. “Let go!” I said to the bug. It didn’t. “Hey, stupid bug! Let go! You’re going to rips your wings off!” Nope. I was trying to go slow but I had to go a reasonable speed for the road. Probably about 35 mph. I watched as, one leg at a time, the wind got the better of the “cool bug” and finally he disappeared into the breeze. Stupid bug.
And then I realized that I’m a stupid bug, too. I’m dealing with things that are beyond my control, at least as far as I’m willing to attempt to control them. And I’m sure that God has his hands cupped around his mouth calling down, “Let go, little one! Let go! I got this!” But no. I’m not letting go. I’m a rather tenacious bug. I sink my teeth into something, I don’t want to let go. I want to help. No really. I can help. Let me help. I can do it. No, I’m sure I can. (repeat).
As much as I hate to admit it, I’d rather have my limbs torn off than let go. Why? Because it’s what I know. It’s my instinct to hold on. I’ve lost things before. I don’t want to lose this. I. MUST. HOLD. ON.
I’ve got to let go. I KNOW it will be alright. I’ve lived the life of “let go” before. I liked it. Much more peaceful. It will work out better than I could have ever dreamed up on my own. I just have to sit back and watch it work ~ like magic, ~ because it will. I don’t want to let go. I want to fix it. But I will only make myself crazy in the meantime. Sometimes these things take time. Timing is everything. I’m afraid to let it slip away. I might not get a second chance. But that’s fear. Fear is not of God. I cannot operate based on fear because that doesn’t work. I have to operate from a place of love. I have to open my heart and let go of my fear.
Let go. Open my heart. Love. Watch for the miracle. Because no matter how it plays out, it is a miracle and it’s perfect. Sometimes it takes a while to see, but it’s true all the same.
So today we look at acceptance. Acceptance says you’ll agree to take things as they are without trying to change them. In the Serenity Prayer, we accept the things we cannot change. There are a lot of things you can’t change. You accept them or reject them based on who you are, or on the situation. Some of the most difficult things to accept as they are, are people.
You can’t change people. They are in charge of their lives. See them for what they are, for who they are, for how they are. A friend passed on a lesson to me, that is another truth I accept. It is this: People are always showing us who they are. We just don’t want to believe them. That statement, my friends, is TRUTH.
There isn’t a lot that can’t be changed with the right set of variables. Chronic illness, addictions, loss… these are a few that you may not be able to change. Your job is to accept them or don’t. But understand you will not be able to change things that are directly attached to another person. YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE. Please note – there is NO COMMA before “people” in the previous sentence. People can absolutely change but they have to want it. No one can do it for them.
Here is an example: I used to be smart. Now I’m nice. Truth. I used to be WAY smart. Does that mean I’m not smart now? …the jury’s still out… BUT I had to realize that being happy to be me because I was smarter than you, didn’t make it okay for me to treat you as less than me. If I have all these brains and decide that means I can treat you like “less” because you don’t have these brains…? What the HELL does that say about me? Not much nice. If God gave me smarts, it wasn’t so that I could rub it in your face. I know a lot of people who aren’t book-smart. But they have other gifts you can’t buy or can’t learn. I have accepted that while it’s great to be smart, it’s GREATER to appreciate others for their gifts. Appreciating and celebrating the gifts of others is coming face to face with GRATITUDE. Now THERE’S a powerful word…
Learn to accept what you cannot change. If this means you walk away from it, then so be it. You have the ability to choose what you can accept and what you can’t. If you can accept things that you cannot change, it puts you a step ahead of the pack. Don’t waste your finite energy on something you can’t accept that can’t be changed. Acceptance is a strength. It renders you powerful and puts you in charge of what you CAN change.
Courage anyone? Yes. Please.
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