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What a week!  Crazy stuff!  Crazy busy!  What next?

Well, I can’t answer that question as I possess few clairvoyant abilities but I’m pretty sure more of the same.  Life.  Life is what is going on, in all its vain weakness and urgent need.  Tomorrow is another day… for most of us.

It has been difficult to learn to turn off the pain.  It is absolutely an acquired skill as pain can be hard to ignore.  When it takes over your mind and pitches a tent, it’s time to formulate an eviction plan.

Detachment is the key to blocking out pain.  If you can step away and look at your circumstances from a “big picture” view, it can help you gain clarity and perspective.  What we are going through is not unique to us.  I would venture to say that 99.9% of our hurts are common to mankind – not unique or isolated in the least.   Certainly there are exceptions, but for the most part we endure similar experiences, like it or not.  I’ve never been good at pushing pain away or blocking it out.  And when I was able to,  it usually took a light bulb moment to make me see the need to let go.

I cannot bear the burden of pain – literally.  My life is too full and too busy.  I am treading water mentally as it is, just to keep up with the demands on my time.  I MUST gain an angle that enables me to see objectively if I am to move past it.  I have to see it for what it is and release it.  It will still be a truth, but at least I can see that carrying the burden will NEVER be my friend.  I will only harm myself continuously if I make the decision to hang on to what is breaking me.  Like grasping a hot coal, the longer I hold it in my fist, the worse the wound and the longer the recovery time. Scarring is a certainty.

Suffering is optional.  I’ve heard this said and I believe it to be true.  I also know that sometimes it takes a while to be able to let go of pain and move past the suffering.  Suffering is the outcome of dwelling in pain.  I have suffered enough.  If I can let it go, I will.  And if I can’t let it go, then I’ll work at it until I can do so.

I understand what it’s like to carry baggage through life.  I don’t like being encumbered.  However, until I focus on an issue and am able to see the reality of what holding onto it means, what it is doing to me, I will suffer.  I will be tired.  Because carrying baggage, day in and day out, is exhausting.  It weakens you.  It steals your joy.  It drains your perseverance and disables your ability to maintain.  I can’t do it.  It’s just too hard.

Find one thing to let go of, one thing to lighten your burden. Offer it up as a gift to tomorrow.  See what it feels like to release that weight from your heartstrings.  It may not be easy, but the relief is a gift without equal.

Have a great weekend!  Enjoy some time with those you love.  Do something nice for YOU.  You are worth it – I promise.

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Let Go

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A couple of days ago I noticed an unusual bug on my driver’s side car window as I was getting in my car.   He was kind of sleek and small, with a prominent stinger.  “Cool bug” I thought to myself.  I got in and backed down the driveway.  It wasn’t until I turned onto the main road that I noticed it was still there, hanging on to the window.  Even though I wasn’t yet up to speed, the wind was really beating up this bug.  His wings, head, everything was getting battered.  “Let go!” I said to the bug.  It didn’t.  “Hey, stupid bug!  Let go!  You’re going to rips your wings off!”  Nope.  I was trying to go slow but I had to go a reasonable speed for the road.  Probably about 35 mph.  I watched as, one leg at a time, the wind got the better of the “cool bug” and finally he disappeared into the breeze.  Stupid bug.

And then I realized that I’m a stupid bug, too.  I’m dealing with things that are beyond my control, at least as far as I’m willing to attempt to control them.  And I’m sure that God has his hands cupped around his mouth calling down, “Let go, little one!  Let go! I got this!”  But no.  I’m not letting go.  I’m a rather tenacious bug.  I sink my teeth into something, I don’t want to let go.  I want to help.  No really.  I can help.  Let me help.  I can do it.  No, I’m sure I can. (repeat).

As much as I hate to admit it, I’d rather have my limbs torn off than let go.  Why?  Because it’s what I know.  It’s my instinct to hold on.  I’ve lost things before.  I don’t want to lose this.  I.  MUST.  HOLD.  ON.

I’ve got to let go.  I KNOW it will be alright.  I’ve lived the life of “let go” before.  I liked it.  Much more peaceful.  It will work out better than I could have ever dreamed up on my own.  I just have to sit back and watch it work ~ like magic, ~ because it will.  I don’t want to let go.  I want to fix it.  But I will only make myself crazy in the meantime.  Sometimes these things take time.  Timing is everything.  I’m afraid to let it slip away.  I might not get a second chance.  But that’s fear.  Fear is not of God.  I cannot operate based on fear because that doesn’t work.  I have to operate from a place of love.  I have to open my heart and let go of my fear.

Let go.  Open my heart.  Love.  Watch for the miracle.  Because no matter how it plays out, it is a miracle and it’s perfect.  Sometimes it takes a while to see, but it’s true all the same.

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Serenity

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Is that the way of it?  We want serenity.  We want it now.

Serenity takes planning, folks.  Let’s not kid ourselves.  Much of what lends itself to serenity is the ability to plan ahead and alleviate some of the pressure you have inside your tightly cork-bottled life.  Planning is important if you are going to EXPECT SERENITY.

Serenity Now may be an odd concept, but it can be accomplished by finding acceptance in the now and realizing what your options are.  Knowing that you can’t change a situation – because it isn’t yours to change – takes a great burden off your daily thinking list.  Truthfully serenity is all in your head.  It’s about letting go.  It’s about knowing that serenity is a gift you give yourself.  The gift is understanding.  ..understanding that some things in life just aren’t yours to tamper with.  YES  – you CAN tamper with them but, understand that “tampering” will bring you grief, exhaustion, heartache, frustration… the list goes on and none of it’s fun or pretty.  Serenity is understanding that God is in control.  If there’s a solution, God has it.  If God needs your help…  welll..  God is God – so my policy is that God can handle these things… Hence the title: “God”…

Understand that living a life of serenity isn’t difficult.  You do the best you can.  You let go of the outcome.  You do things for the right reason.  You do them for yourself – meaning that you do your part and then you let go.  Just because you do the right thing doesn’t mean that it makes others behave in any predictable way.  …and if that is your goal then you need a dictionary because that’s not letting go, or being serene..  That’s manipulation.  You do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do.  Then you give it up.  There are no expectations.  Doing the right thing is how you live with integrity – how you define who you are.  Your behavior does not hinge on outcomes.  You do your part.  You step aside. Whew.  That was easy.

Serenity.  Now.  It’s as easy as being yourself and not having expectations.  Doing the right thing always, and letting go of the outcome.  Let go and relax.  You’ve done your part.

Serenity.  Always.